wow, well.. I guess the secret is out 

 I was just starting to tell others and I had not gotten to here yet. It was all rather sudden and I myself only had about 4 days to put together the wedding. 
That combined with work I think has left me a bit ill and I've been getting bouts of dizziness so I've not been keeping up with everyone. A few people are a bit pissed at both of us for not having been notified yet.. family members and friends alike. 
edit( as I was saying, I just got  message now from someone else pissed off) 
So, it's not all been well wishers. So, a note to anyone planning to get married, make sure everyone has advance notice. 
 
Anyway, it's been both good and bad.. so we're thankful for the well wishers. 
thanks